Moving one child into a room with an older sibling - Part 1

The closer we get to baby #3 making his or her appearance the more transitions are needing to take place. Some of the transitions, like Kendall becoming an older sister and being dethroned as the baby, simply cannot happen before baby #3 arrives; there are a few transitions that we can have happen before the birth day. One of those transitions is moving Kendall into the same room as her big brother, Brennan. Thankfully, our bedset for Brennan's room was given to us from my cousins so we already had a bunk bed set up. Brennan's been sleeping in the bottom bunk since Kendall took his room and crib so first we had to get Brennan sleeping consistently in the top bunk.

Moving into a shared bedroom on Thirsties

I'm always surprised when one of my children encounters a new experience and they find it challenging. It's not that I expect them to never be challenged or scared but having problems sleeping in a top bunk was not something that I anticipated Brennan having difficulty with. I just assumed that his little five-and-a-half-year-old brain would process things the same way I do: there's a safety bar to prevent him from rolling off and the ladder to get up into the bed is on the opposite end of the bed where he sleeps. We've been talking about this process with him since Christmas. He was all excited about it until the time came to actually move on up. Consumed by his fear of falling off, he just could not bring himself to spend a night up there. We dropped the issue with him. There was no sense in forcing him to do something he was afraid and time was on our side. Now, however, I'm 30 weeks into this pregnancy and time is quickly escaping us. Since I'm pregnant and clumsy my husband took on the task of putting Brennan to bed that first night. He climbed up into bed with Brennan; they read their books, said his bedtime prayers, sang his three songs (Twinkle Little Star, Daddy/Mommy Loves You, and Jesus Loves Me) and cuddled. My husband usually falls asleep with Brennan during cuddle time and the same thing happened this first night in the top bunk. Once my husband woke up we chatted about how he got Brennan to stay in bed. He said that they had a lengthy conversation about how difficult it would be for Brennan to slip through the bar of the top bunk. His head is too big! Then they talked about how hard it would be for him to roll to the end of his bed and fall down the ladder. Once Brennan saw how these scenarios were really unlikely he was fine sleeping up high. It's safe to say that step one of moving Kendall into Brennan's room is finished. Next, we'll have to transition Kendall out of her crib and into the bottom bunk. All the while sharing a room with her older brother, whom she adores. I'm anticipating quite a few late nights of giggling and much needed shushing from us parents. On top of that we'll have to explain to Kendall the importance of staying in bed. I'm certain there will be more than one morning where I'll find Kendall in the top bunk with her older brother. So yes, the process of teaching Kendall how to get down using the ladder has also begun. Life as a parent is all about transitions, what transitions have you had to help your child through recently?
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17 comments

  • This was so helpful. We will be taking on this challenge soon and it is nice to have a heads up concerning some of the problems to expect and solutions to try!

    Megan Vandeveer on
  • We are preparing to move our 6 month old from our room into his older brother’s room. Thankfully our oldest won’t have to switch beds!

    Kim H on
  • cute bunk beds! I hope it goes well for everyone

    Sarah Hayes on
  • My 6 year old and 4 year old have always shared a room and they love it! They wake up and play together and go to bed chatting. I think it’s helped keep them really close.

    Rachael Logan on
  • The best part of this is their adorable faces! We won’t have to worry about room sharing for quite some time (if ever) but I love the idea of kiddos having that bond!

    Kadie on

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